Mummy knows best.....

I truly believe in the saying " a mother knows best " it pains me to say it sometimes but my mother is ALWAYS right and I feel the same myself now as a mother. Then there's that saying " no-one knows a child better than it's own mother " again VERY true, but why do certain people not agree? These "certain people" being medical professionals do they think they know my baby better than I do? They seem to think so, I forgot they lived with us 24/7 and seen it all first hand for 8 months(!) 

I am sick to the back teeth of Hospitals, Medical centres. Doctors, Health Visitors and the like. They go on about "if you ever have any problems we are only a phone call away" yeah right(!) a phone call away to your secretaries who are far from helpful who don't pass on messages and just plain incompetent.

My Spud is 8 months old now from day one we have had difficulties with him. Rapidly going from one extreme to the next but all revolving around feeding. He got diagnosed with acid reflux  when he was a few months old and put on medication for it. None of which really worked, to be fair it may have stopped him physically being sick but he still gets the reflux in his mouth. This particular doctor noticed how distressed he always was and done several scans on him including MRI's EEG's etc all of which come back negative. Now don't get me wrong that's a HUGE relief but we were all left very puzzled as to what the problem was. After consulting back with the Doctor after these results she was rather baffled. I stressed to her that we were still not happy, that he was clearly distressed and something needed to be done. ( at this particular time he was screaming for over 16 hours a day! Now I'm not on my own in saying that's just not right. ) The Doctor agreed " yes there's is absolutely something wrong this isn't the norm for a baby but as to what it is we just don't know. We've tried all these tests and there negative....we've hit a dead end." right ok so what now? "well we are going to discharge you" ........hang on a minute you acknowledge there is something wrong with my baby but you don't know what and then you discharge him??? 

Well fuck you too!!

He's now being seen by a community paediatrician who is neither use nor ornament. She's now saying it's a behavioural problem he has ( this was in April ) she said she wanted to see him in 3 months time. Now last week he refused to eat or drink and after not eating or drink for best part of 5 days I took him to A&E as I was very worried as his behaviour was so erratic. The doctors reaction was "well he hasn't lost weight so there's nothing we can do" so basically he's got to starve and dehydrate before they actually do something even though he'd fine without for 5 days. Ridiculous!
She asked when I was due to see the paediatrician I told her it should be July time, she advised me to ring them up and ask for an urgent appointment as he wasn't eating or drinking. So that's what I did I called up and got through to her secretary and explained everything she said " you haven't got an appointment in July now it's been cancelled it's November now" I said " that's pathetic he will be one by then the doctor told me it was urgent and that I couldn't wait until July let alone November. He's needs one right away"  she went on to say that this appointment was the earliest they had nothing sooner and that was that. 

So the situation we are in now is Spud is managing to get dime porridge down him but hasn't had any liquids in a week now and no one is doing a damn thing about it.

What is driving me crazy is all these doctors agreeing something isn't right but then doing nothing! What use is that to Spud? He's 8 months now and this has gone on far too long and he's just getting worse and worse and then people ( other mums ) saying " awww it's colic" " aww he's teething " really PISSES ME OFF!! do they think I'm stupid???? NO it's not colic! YES he is teething but they are not the causes and the hospital have clarified all this. My point is this, I know there trying to help but they really aren't saying things that are just plain ridiculous making out that it's just a little thing like colic when it's far from it. If the doctors don't know what it is I'm sure as hell the woman down the street won't know. Yes a mother knows best but she knows what's best for her OWN child, not other people's.

So what it's gonna take for them to take notice? To ACTUALLY do something ? Are they happy that he doesn't drink and possibly not eat until November ? Then in November I can almost guarantee that they will say see how he gets on and we will see you in 3 months time!

They tell you a mothers institution is important. Clearly not. I feel so helpless that I can't fix this and I feel even worse that I can't get people to help him.

Mummy knows best.

  

Sky is shit&so is Virgin..well Virgin isn't but so.....

Past two days has been a nightmare!! Reason being I was at my parents house the other day, trying to sort their broadband out for them. They've been with Sky for over 10 years now and the way I was spoken to by their staff was disgraceful. Their broadband has never worked but them being nearly in their 70's and not using it, it's never really been an issue for them. ( even though they've been paying for it ) So now with my sister starting secondary school in September, they've come to realise it would be useful to have. After trying to sort it myself and failing I decided to give Sky a call with the hope they could sort this out for them. 

"thankyou for calling Sky, you are in a queue and your call will be answered shortly.." shortly?! Try 40 minutes later. 

Explained to the guy on the phone the situation. He was far from helpful, asking me if I'd done this and that - I'd already told him I'd done it! "ok he says one last thing to try before we will send an engineer out to you, go and get a screw driver get down on the floor unscrew the phone socket box and test the test centre at the back of the box" ...... Sorry what?!?! Do I look like Handy Manny!? So I say " I've explained this to you already I can't do that as I am registered blind and wouldn't be able to see what I'm doing and as for my 70 year old parents they can barely walk let alone get down on the floor to do this" his reply "well Miss Rankin it really isn't that hard for yourself to do" ...... By this point my blood is boiling. " what?! Not that hard for me to do? I can't see the bloody thing so I think you'll find it is" he replied with an "oh..." 

Well what now? "well your mum and dad will have not do it" CAN'T "and you definitely can't do it?" NO!!! "well is there anyone else in your property that can help you?" ....."well there's my four year old little girl who is also partially sighted would you like her to do it(?)" .."well it is quite safe Miss Rankin"......

*takes deep breathes*

"ok let me spell this out for you, could you send someone out to sort my parents broadband for them, they cannot do it, I cannot do it and my four year old little girl cannot do it".. "well no Miss Rankin an engineer won't come out until you've done this thing that we ask you to do" 

FINE!! "put me through to your manager" 

Several conversations later still getting the same old thing doesn't matter that my parents are pensioners and I am disabled. It's physically impossible to do. 

My mum got very upset and told me to cancel everything she had with Sky (phone, tv, multiroom, and the non-existent broadband) she pays over £70 a month to these idiots. So I get transferred to cancellations "why do you want to cancel your tv Miss Rankin if it's the broadband that's the issue?"..... Well it's a little thing called principle mate!

"ok it's cancelled"

Right, so onto Virgin I go for what they wanted it would cost £120 a month :O apparently they have to buy the channels off Sky and that's why it's so dear. 

So off I go to speak to my mum "well maybe we should just go back to Sky, I can't afford Virgin".......... *screams* " well if you go back to Sky you can't have broadband then cos they are refusing to come out to fix it" 

Calling Sky back.....*thankyou for calling Sky,your in a queue and your call will be answered shorly"....15 minutes later.

So I'm explaining to this guy (thankfully different one to the say before) what's happened,the way we were treated and us cancelling and now her wanting to come back to Sky. "oh well you've cancelled now I don't think you can just do that!" FFS!!! "I'll see what I can do"....well thanks it's very good of you(!) "ok that's all done your mum is back with us, just hold the line a moment".."would you like an egineer to come out and check your parents broadband Miss Rankin?" ....OMG!! "are you joking ? This is what I asked for yesterday and you refused to send one and that's why we cancelled" .."oh, well do you want one or not?"....obviously!!!!

What a waste of time!! Why couldn't they have just done that in the first place? Instead thru were damn right rude and very unhelpful. 

Moral of the story just don't get involved.

Night night, don't let the bed bugs bite.

The concept of sleep is non-existent in our household. It's so sporadic. According to HV "around about 5/6 months you've come to understand your baby and have got into a really stable routine" really ? Ok well maybe it was like that the first time round as Princess was your "textbook baby" however Spud is FAR from textbook. 

Sleep-wise Spud had a shaky start not sleeping all that well whilst in the room with us.
4 months in we made a decision to try him in his own room hoping this may settle him, BINGO!! He settled giving us a whole 3 months worth of sleep ( well 6/7 hours per night ) brilliant!  He's now 7 months old and reverted back to 0-4 months where sleep is a mere dream in our imaginations. Leaving us all zombified! 

We have however found a solution *touches wood repeatedly* the past 3 nights he slept in his bouncer chair in the living room infront of the television :S so this our new set up until he changes his mind. Plus sides to this - Spud gets sleep, I get sleep as I get shoo-ed to go up to bed my the hubby-to-be. ( I'm REALLY not complaining! ) andPrincess gets to sleep soundly. Only one who isn't winning is Phil's crooked neck by sleeping on the couch. 

At the moment I feel as if I am dreaming as having 3 nights sleep, like 3 nights FULL sleep is just beyond my thought process. I pray this lasts for a few more nights at least.

So with that I bid you a Goodnight! :D 

New girl to the blogging world.

So it seems I have succumbed to the land of blogging!! Not that my life is all that interesting to others but you never know. I hope to keep this as up to date as possible,between mothering duties of course! We will see how it goes, be nice! :)